I started thinking about this today, as I was visiting my Facebook account, which I admit to frequenting on a pretty regular basis. BUSTED!!
As I was looking at my “Wall”, I noticed two different postings. They were posted within minutes of each other by people who had no connection. Although, if you believe the “six-degrees of separation” principle, then they are probably somehow related.
The messages that each of them posted were at complete ends of the “happiness” spectrum. One person’s message was filled with stress and anxiety, while the other’s was filled with positivity and optimism. Both were experiencing some kind of event in their lives at that particular moment that made them happy and positive or riddled with worry and anxiety.
The day started the same way for both of them, I am guessing. They both woke up from sleep and went through their morning routine as most of us do. However, as they made their way through their day, something sent them in opposite directions.
Was it them that made their day change course or was it their circumstance that did it for them? In one case, a series of events occurred that caused them to change their outlook on the day. For the other person, it might have been no event in particular.
What if the shoe had been on the other foot? What if nothing catastrophic happened to either of them> Would that have made a difference in their lives on that particular day?
If the person who suddenly experienced stress and anxiety had better coping skills, would they have been as affected by events as they unfolded?
Good questions…don’t ya think?
Since I don’t have a crystal ball and can’t determine the answer to these questions, all I can do is think that in actual fact, all days start out the same for the majority of people.
We start our day rising from sleep. Regardless of the kind of sleep we have, this is our starting point. Some of us wake up cheery and on the right side of the bed, others would prefer to throw the alarm clock at the wall, roll over and go back to bed. Some of us wake up rested and refreshed while others may have had problems falling asleep or maybe had a few too many drinks the night before. Many of us dread getting up because we have to go to jobs that we don’t like or because we have a very long commute ahead of us. Others wake up and can’t wait to attack the day…either headed off to a job we love or to a university class we are really into or another destination that we are excited about.
During the course of the day, we interact with other people who might mess with the quality of our day or we might receive information that changes the mood of our day. Sometimes, horrible events happen causing us physical injury or tragically, even loss of life. Rare…but not impossible.
As an aspiring “Enlightened Male” and someone who has become more self-aware through deliberate action, I often prefer to take a more optimistic approach to each day, regardless of what is thrown at me. Not to say that I don’t have lapses. I am, a work in progress and know that I am on a journey. I too, have many obstacles and challenges on my plate right now. They might be different than the next person’s, however, they are still there. I also know that when one set of obstacles are dealt with, a new set will come forward.
How you deal with each challenge or obstacle as it approaches, can minimize the level or stress or anxiety you experience making a potentially bad day turn into a relatively decent day.
Also, we are all at the centre of our own universe. What is happening to me in my life right now seems huge and impossible to deal with. However, the person standing right beside you has their own battle to fight and it might be even bigger than your own. Perspective is key. Your not in this alone. Things don’t only happen to you. Some days it might feel that way, but you don’t have to let it.
We all wake up the same way. Our day starts off exactly the same. Those of us that are fortunate enough to open their eyes and breathe in and out are alive and life is a pretty wonderful thing…filled with high highs and sometimes some pretty low lows.
Its the variety that makes life interesting and just like a good book, makes you want to keep living to see what happens next.