Wedding dresses and Christmas gifts?

Well, we are down to the wire….Christmas is almost here! Without sounding crusty or”Scrooge-like”, I am thrilled that its just about here and will soon be behind us.

OK, I am going into “preachy” mode now so indulge me, after all, this is MY blog.

Every year, it seems that Christmas becomes more and more about capitalism and “more-ism” and less and less about family, friendship and acknowledging our core values.

Christmas is alot like a wedding dress. We do our research on what gifts to buy for those on our list, spend well beyond our means to buy all this stuff, only to enjoy the whole “gift of giving” during a whirlwind gift opening ceremony that probably lasts no more than 10-15 minutes. Once the ceremony of opening the gifts is complete, a feeling of “now what” begins. We enjoy our gifts for a little while but then the party is over….they are put away and their importance becomes less and less with time.

Don’t get me wrong, there are aspects of the holiday season that I look forward to every year. There is a warmth and familiarity of the Christmas season…often highlighted with yummy food, seeing friends or family that you maybe haven’t seen for a while and generally adapting a routine that is slower paced and “lazy”.

But imagine what Christmas would be like if it had nothing to do with gifts and presents. What if the whole gift buying process was entirely removed from the equation? Consider a Christmas season whose focus was on slowing down and spending time with family and friends? Aside from the economic ramifications that would come with an elimination of consumerism at this all important time of year for retailers, how would you feel?
Consider not having to stress out over shopping for a list of people who probably don’t really need anything. Consider removing the stress of having to go into further debt to buy all these gifts. Consider the time saved on running here and running there to buy all these gifts (yes, I know the internet exists)? Consider what you could be doing with this time saved and how you could actually even take some out to do something nice for yourself? I know Christmas is about being self-less, but can you be self-less without giving “stuff”?

As I have said in previous blog postings, our lives are fast-paced and riddled with stress from such external forces as personal finances, work and health.

By eliminating the race to buy stuff for others, the possibility of reducing these stresses becomes very real.

Here is something to think about:

Give the gift of time to someone that you love. Put on a pot of tea, share a bottle of wine, go for a walk together, play in the snow with your children. These gifts will be far more appreciated, they will make you and the recipient feel great and the memory created will last a lot longer.


About I'm Just A Dad

Stephen Gosewich is just a Dad (he is a former Enlightened Male but decided to change the name because when you search Enlightened Male, "other...wink, wink" are displayed. He spends his days during the week as a working stiff. At all other times, he just enjoys hanging out with his best friend and wife and their two very active and inspiring daughters.
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